I love offering workshops around sexuality.  It’s deeply fulfilling to share about how to create passionate, powerful sexual experiences, and I really enjoy getting up in front of a group to teach about all aspects of sexuality and sensual connection.  Being a sex educator, I’m always expanding my repertoire, exploring new ways to reach my audience and offer them new ways to learn about pleasure.  One beautiful way that I do this is by demonstration with a live male model. I offer Hens Parties in Sydney during which I showcase a lingam massage live and in person. There’s something about working in person and live for all to see that you simply can’t match any other way.

When I’m working with a live model, I’m able to show specific techniques, subtleties and refinements.  Plenty can be passed across with words, but when you see the technique in action, it opens up a whole new layer of understanding.  Instead of simply following a description, the audience has seen the process, been a part of it.  They gain a greater understanding and retain more of what’s been passed along in the workshop.  It’s just like any class in that respect, whether we’re discussing tantra or sewing; a skilled teacher can help students to learn a subject through lectures alone, but if they can actually see what you mean, they will learn a lot more.

One of the most rewarding things about working with a live model is that I am able to show how to touch consciously, with care, sensitivity, and intention.  A touch is worth a thousand words.  I can write or talk about going slowly with a lingam massage, or using light pressure in certain touches, certain parts of the process, but through demonstration, the audience gets a sense of what that actually means.  How to tune in with the receiver, the power of subtle touches.

I also show how to maintain constant contact with the model, not only through touch but through voice as well.  I check in with them regularly throughout the workshop, tuning in and receiving feedback.  Not only does this give the participants an opportunity to ask questions and receive feedback from the model while in the state, it also shows how they can bring this same kind of openness, communication, and conscious connection into the bedroom.  Time and time again I’ve had my audiences share that, in observing me, how I work with the model, they have picked up new ways of connecting with their lover, holding the space, and sharing sensuality. I love offering these tantra hens parties because I can pass along skills and knowledge that transform the womens love lives from then on.

People learn in different ways.  Some are more auditory and learn well simply by hearing me discuss the process, while others learn better when reading about the technique.  Some absorb the information well just by watching, and others need to engage in the process, taking notes or actually trying it out themselves.  Knowing this, I offer handouts with a written description and pens to take notes.  When working with a live model, you can see what is happening when he is touched in certain ways.  It takes the workshop out of the realm of theory and brings it home for the participants.

One of the things that I’ve heard from the participants many times after the workshops is that seeing how I work has given them permission to be less goal-oriented in their own sexual adventures.  I love this, because it’s really the whole point of tantra.  It helps us to move past the tendency to go through the motions and opens up a new level of sensual connection, really feeling and being present to the sensations.  And once again, though I can explain the importance of this to the audience, once they see it, it becomes more clear. These workshops are a great idea for a truly unique Hens Night, a chance to prepare the lucky lady for passionate and sensual years ahead.

It’s beautiful to be connected.  To have honest, real human contact, to appreciate the joys of life.  And these days, it’s easier to be connected than ever, with social media and email accessible right from our phones.  We can be reached anytime, anywhere.  But how connected are we, really?

These days, one of the biggest issues we face is work-life balance.  It’s become the norm to answer work emails, take care of invoices, and communicate with employers or clients during our personal time.  And it’s all too easy to feel pressured to do this, to feel that we won’t keep our jobs unless we “live” them.  How much room is there for the “life” part of the equation?

Once upon a time, there was a clearer delineation between work and life.  We went to work and made money so that we could go home and live.  So that we could enjoy life, interact with family and friends, experience things and cultivate rich and meaningful connections.  In order to do that, we have to disconnect from work when the work day is over.  Put the email on hold, maybe even hide the phone altogether.  Set aside a time to be human and take pleasure in our lives.

Take some time to consider it.  Are you working to live or living to work? It’s an important question.  Are you enjoying this precious gift of life, or just waiting for retirement?  The choice is always ours.  We can give ourselves permission to put the job down and enjoy the time we have.

Our world is framed by narrative, by stories that we have absorbed along the way, often without ever realising it.  One of these narratives is security.  It’s that feeling that we have to push, struggle, exhaust ourselves, and do things that we don’t really want to do.  Just so that we have enough money to pay the bills and come back for the next week of struggle.  The funny thing is that security is an illusion; a carrot on a stick if you will, that can keep us running for decades, if we don’t stop to consider the alternatives.  And it’s a bottomless pit, a need that can’t be filled by any amount of money, power, or possessions.

All that we have, when it comes right down to it, is our experience.  Our present moment.  But we can’t enjoy the present moment if we’re living with an “until then” mindset.  I’ll be happy when I get that next promotion.  When I can finally take that vacation.  When I pay off the mortgage.  When the kids grow up.  But life is happening right here, right now.  And it can slip right through our fingers if we don’t stop to smell the roses.  Life is for living, loving, laughing, for being present to the juicy, delicious moments, feelings, experiences, and connections that surround us and knock on the door, just waiting to be let in.

Are you enjoying yourself?  Really soaking in the beauty around you?  Feeling your body?  Having amazing and meaningful connections with the people in your life?  That’s what it’s all about, really.  And it’s a gift that each of us can give ourselves, whenever and wherever we are.

Merry Christmas season, everyone!  Once more, it’s time for blessings and cheer and to reflect upon the year.  And it’s been a whirlwind.

I love the holiday season, but I have to remember to pull back and pamper myself a little bit along the way.  For all the cheer and joy that comes around, we have the stress of family dynamics, the rush for Xmas presents, and the inevitable chaos that pops up on cue each holiday season.  I invite you all to take the time you need to reboot and recover some of the energy spent throughout the last twelve months.

This year has been epic, both for Blissrising and on a personal level.  It’s flown by, a journey from one obstacle to the next.  For those that resonate with this, take heart.  There’s always a storm before the calm.  Crisis and opportunity, challenge and growth.  The energy is high, the pace is fast, and we’re gathering more momentum as we move along.  The best thing to do is take one step at a time and remember to breathe, to let the flow of life carry us along as it unfolds.

One of the beautiful new developments for Blissrising is the Hen’s Night.  These nights have been juicy and exciting, perfect gifts for the bride-to-be.  I host a Lingam Massage Hen’s Night where the lucky bride to be and her friends get to experience and learn the techniques needed to give a sensual and erotic experience that your men will never forget.  I teach an authentic tantric skill that will keep your man in the palm of your hand from day one, and once they go tantric, they don’t go back.

Despite the challenges along the way, this year has been exciting, expansive, and downright amazing.  I have received a host of wonderful clients, and have had the privilege to brighten their lives, deepen their connection to sensuality, and give the gift of touch, sensuality and tantra to men, women, and couples from all walks of life.  This is my passion and my joy, my way of bringing more life, light, joy, and pleasure into the world.

I normally don’t get into this, but I even have a few resolutions for the New Year.  My goals – to begin sharing with a broader audience through a YouTube channel and to take a few more mini-vacations and spend more time with loved ones.  I want to open up a bit more to the flow of life and to do one thing each day to brighten the lives of those around me.

So, with the end of one year and the dawn of the new on the horizon, what are your reflections?  What challenges have you met, and what gifts have these challenges offered?  What is there to be grateful for in your world, and what would you like to do to give back to yourself.  And finally, what experiences would you like to invite into your world during the year ahead?

In love and light, and with holiday blessings for all.

We’ve all been there.  In the early stages of relationship, we just can’t get enough of one another.  Long conversations late into the night, early mornings together.  It’s a beautiful, magical time.  And then, somewhere along the way, a bit of tension starts to enter the picture.  We might start to get a bit snappy, a bit irritable at things that never even caught our attention before.  Little disputes can pop up, things that, if we had enough space and clarity, would never be enough to cause conflict.  Little by little, it becomes harder to stay in that space of euphoric connection that seemed inexhaustible in the beginning.

What happened?  Has the magic slipped away?  Limited shelf life for the golden moments?

Not really.  The bare truth is that we all need personal time to get centered and clear.  To rest the mind, come back to balance, and be in the space where we can bring the best of ourselves into any interaction.  It’s easy to forget this when we’re in that space of excitement about a new connection, but it’s a basic human need.  And knowing that can make the difference between a lasting, fulfilling relationship and one that becomes stale and confining despite our best efforts and sincerest desires to the contrary.

When we spend time with others, we tune in to them energetically.  Our fields become linked and we synch our vibrations.  We create a space between us that is different from the one we create for ourselves.  And this is a beautiful thing.  It’s connection, pure and simple.  This connection is what makes life exciting, juicy, delicious, and really worth living.  But the fact remains that it’s a different space than we have learned to navigate on our own.

By making it a point, even in those really beautiful and exciting early moments of a new connection, to take a bit of time for ourselves, we give ourselves a chance to occupy our own energy field.  Even a walk alone or a ten-minute space of personal time can let us tune in to the subtleties of our field.  Our focus comes back to center and we start to feel all those little things that might need attention in the moment.  Demands of the body, little emotional wobbles or thoughts that have come up, but haven’t had the chance to fully surface.  This time lets us take stock and listen to where we are and what’s happening for us in the moment.  To de-stress and sort out any of the loose ends that have accumulated along the way.

Personal time is essential for a healthy and lasting relationship, but it doesn’t end there.  The demands of life often keep us running.  From work to home, to the things that we have to sort out in order to keep things running, to the evenings out for fun.  One thing can lead to another, and over time, we get exhausted without even realising why.  With so many things claiming our urgent attention, a little time alone can seem unimportant.  But that lets all sort of things get lost in the mix.

Truth be told, having a bit of peaceful time alone each day is as important as exercising.  As having a healthy diet or good sleeping habits.  We can survive without it.  And even do really well—for a little while.  But before too long, the lack starts to catch up with us and we get a bit off.  We start to let things slip, or become distracted, irritable, stressed, or just generally less able to bring the best part of ourselves forward.  In any aspect of life.

So take a chance to stop and smell the roses.  Take a walk, have a few minutes of quiet contemplation, or just lay down in your own space for a moment.  See what happens when you make it a point to have a daily check in time.  How does your quality of connection improve?  What points of gratitude or clarity drop in when you create space for them?  It’s amazing how much a few moments alone can improve every connection in our lives.

Blessings and Light.